Feminine versus Masculine Sensibilities in the 21st Century

On April 10, 2017, I posted the following remarks on Jay Bookman’s AJC blog, in response to his article in the following link: http://jaybookman.blog.myajc.com/2017/04/10/opinion-attack-on-syrian-airfield-changes-very-little/

Mary Elizabeth:

“Luckovich nailed what was happening with only a few words.

The masculine sensibility (which both men and women have in various degrees of dominance) is being played out on the world’s stage by Trump, Assad, Putin. It’s called ‘perceived winning’ or one-ups-manship and it was probably staged for effect, at the cost of innocent lives who do not matter to that ‘masculine and brutal sensibility.’

I am here to disavow the value of that way of seeing in the 21st century. It is not only cruel and less than human but also ineffective. And, valuing it exists not only in the individual characters of Trump, Putin, and Assad but throughout the world, including on this blog. There is another way to solve problems besides the sensibility of ‘top dog,’ and that other way is more humane, stronger, and more lasting.”

Here is a conversation I had on AJC columnist Jay Bookman’s blog on April 7, 2017 with another female poster.

Mary Elizabeth:

“Here is the lesson of this week on this blog, for anyone who cares to learn it:

Whenever we see another human being as a caricature, we tend to be cruel to that caricature.

And, more often than not, we feel free to project our own unrecognized defects onto the ‘other,’ who is not human in our eyes, but a one-dimensional personification of evil or goodness. This is limited and sad thinking that has its destructive effects on us, and on others, personally, and as a world community.

That is why I have written so often that stereotypical thinking is dangerous thinking.”

Another Poster to Mary Elizabeth:

“Can we talk about that projection thingy, MES?

Last we spoke, you said I was a misogynistic, one-upping, winner take all, female.

Never you mind. I’ve never thought of you in that way.”


Mary Elizabeth’s response to that poster:

“I said that, in my opinion, one of the highest values in life to you is ‘winning’ over someone else, whoever you happen to target. From an artistic sensibility, that value is related to masculine thinking, which both men and women can embrace.”


That same poster’s response to Mary Elizabeth’s comment above:


I’m good widdat!”


Mary Elizabeth’s ending comment to that same poster, which reflects her worldview:

“Personally, I believe that when the more feminine virtues or strengths (as perceived in the artistic sensibility) are operative in our present world, the more peaceful and loving this world will become. What are some of those feminine strengths? Nurturing, collaboration rather than domination, and compassion. Again, both men and women are able to embrace these so-called ‘feminine’ sensibilities.

As a human race, we need an evolution in consciousness, imho, to be able to value more those traits, in the 21st century, in which collaboration, more than domination, will be necessary to secure our common survival. Obama has addressed this fact or truth, often, in his various speeches.”

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2 Responses to Feminine versus Masculine Sensibilities in the 21st Century

  1. dbm1fromjaybookmansblog says:

    As far as stereotyping goes, what we need is to think of people and to treat them as individuals, not as members of collectives of any kind.
    Competition is a necessary part of economic functioning, but it must be kept in its place. In business and the professions and trades, the primary focus should be on productiveness. In discussions, the primary focus should be on getting at the truth.

    • I agree with you that we should give each person the respect of being seen as an individual and not stereotyped as simply a member of a group.

      However, I was presenting the concepts of “masculine” and “feminine” from connotations derived from artistic sensibilities. Both men and women contain elements of both the “masculine sensibility” and the “feminine sensibility” within their natures. At various times in each individual’s life, that person may veer more one way or
      the other, in degree, in these artistically-defined sensibilities.

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